Want it All, Want it Now? Here’s What You’re Missing

Quote - Saying you want it but not in fact doing itDo you ever feel as though no matter how hard you push yourself, how much you get done or check off your list, even how many milestones you actually hit, it’ll still never be enough and you’ll never be ‘there’?

I do! I can tell you that the further along my success journey I go the more aware I become of what is possible and what is within reach and so in some ways my hunger for MORE becomes greater with time, my dreams and goals become ever-bigger, and I feel almost anxious with the knowledge of all there is I still want to do … and will do!

So, that’s part of business okay? Desire never ends, and gosh isn’t THAT a good thing?! God knows nobody would ever get anywhere of much note if it weren’t for drive and desire, and the fact that it’s always there to remind you to wake up and get to work.

But there is something I want to talk about more specifically around the concept of not yet being where you want to go, and it has to do with the ‘thing you’ve always wanted to do and known you were born for’.

Don’t tell me for a SECOND you don’t know what I mean sister! I KNOW that as soon as I said this you felt that VERY familiar sucker-punch to the gut feeling.

The feeling that reminds you, once more, that oh shit.

You STILL haven’t mother-fucking got around to giving THAT shit your all.

And oh shit.

You’re still spinning the same crap as to why you haven’t yet, can’t yet.

And OH SHIT.

Even as you think about your own BS lies you know that they’re BS, you know they’re lies, and when all is said and done you know it’s not TRUE that you ‘can’t’, but that rather for some reason unknown to man or at least you, you just CHOOSE NOT TO.

And OH FUCKING SHIT.

When you say they reason is unknown to you, that’s not exactly true.

Because the truth?

Well the truth will fucking hurt today my love, as it so often does! But also –

It just might set you free.

And the truth is this:

You know –
And you’ve always known –
That you are here for something bigger than what most could even consider let alone comprehend.
You know –
And you’ve always known –
Deep within you –
What the thing is.
The thing you were born to do –
Are supposed to do –
And that until you do, and do all out?
You’ll never be at peace, never be there, never be done, always be searching, always feel frustrated, and that even when you do achieve your goals or successes it will feel like so much empty fluff.

Nice marshmallowy fluff perhaps.

A little pretty, a little sweet.

Tasty for a moment!

And then poof – gone.

It doesn’t matter.

And the only thing that will fill that need, that whole, that DEEP DEEP PULL within you?

Is when you finally step the fuck up and give your TRUE dream your all.

Can I ask you something gorgeous?

What IS that true dream of yours?

WHAT IS THE THING YOU’VE ALWAYS KNOWN YOU’RE MEANT TO DO?

If you want to try and pretend you don’t know, then flat out I’m not the mentor for you in any way. To the point where I’d prefer you don’t even read my stuff, let alone consider working with me! And look, I don’t mean you have to be able to define it and pitch it to me in an elevator.

You just have to be able to feel it, and most of all?

You have to be able to admit –

Finally –

And fully –

That it’s about freaking time you got off your ass and DID THE THING!

A year ago you said next year, a week ago you said this week, yesterday you said today, but honey today never comes and the future is NOW.

And I get it. God do I get it! Confession time?

I still haven’t given MY all to MY thing! You think I’m up here every day preaching on my stand, looking down sternly from the halls of success and wanting to just smack YOU down and in some way help you lift yourself UP to living your true dreams?!

No! I’m down there with you. I’m speaking to ME with the stuff I write. Sometimes a past version of me, but today … today I speak to the NOW me. The one who is tired of tomorrow never arriving, heck TODAY never even arriving because something within her wonders –

What if –

I gave it my all –

Actually wrote as much as I want, spoke as much as I want, went FULLY into the truths I want to share and CREATED all that I want –

And it didn’t ‘work’ –

Or worse still it didn’t MATTER.

WhatthefuckwouldIdothen?!

And what would it MEAN?

Can I tell you what it would mean, if you knew you’d finally laid yourself on the line for your dreams and then it didn’t ‘work’ or it didn’t make the difference you want it to make?

IT WOULD MEAN YOU’D LAID YOURSELF ON THE LINE FOR YOUR DREAMS.

And I don’t know about you, but that alone seems like a pretty great fucking outcome. Imagine the feeling of knowing that finally – FINALLY! – you’d given it your all, NO HOLDS BARRED. Do you think you’d be filled with self-respect, a sense of empowerment? Do you think that if it didn’t at first WORK but yet you’d fully COMMITTED you’d just. keep. going because that’s what you DO when you’re DOING THE THING YOU WERE BORN TO DO?!

And do you think –

That maybe –

Just maybe –

You’d help even one person? (And probably so many more)

And that if you helped even ONE person then it DID FUCKING MATTER TO THEM, but more importantly when you think about significance, and whether what you’re called to do is ‘even worth anything’, it’s actually just about YOU DOING WHAT YOU WERE CALLED TO DO …

Which means that the DOING in fact IS the outcome!

Don’t you see?

We hold ourselves back, every freaking day, through the various fears which essentially boil down to what if what if what if and a BIG part of that is CAN I REALLY DO THAT AND WILL IT EVEN MATTER?

I don’t even think the ‘will it work’ thing is the real thing we’re scared of! I think the true fear is will it MATTER, will YOU matter, will anybody even GIVE A DAMN if you BARE YOUR SOUL AND OPEN YOURSELF UP FOR ALL TO SEE!

And the thing is, well the thing is ….

As much as it would be nice to have the world fall at your feet and throw you your millions –

And as much as I fully and FIRMLY believe that the path to true wealth IS going to be by you BARING YOUR SOUL AND DOING WHAT YOU WERE BORN TO DO, and so long as you’re committed to DOING it, day in and day out, and actually doing it FULLY where you NEVER EVER STOP, then you WILL reach your millions –

But the THING?

Well the thing is none of that stuff is the reason to do it, is it?

The reason?

Quite simply?

Is you do it because you need to do it.

For you.

Because you’ve always needed to do it.

For you.

And because it’s never going to go away and NOTHING ELSE MATTERS to YOU my beauty except for doing the thing you’ve always known you were meant to do!

So in short …

If right now you’re not ‘there’ …

And you wonder if you can ‘make it’ if you do what you were born for …

Honestly, in my heart of hearts I fully believe that EVERYBODY can make it doing what they were born for IF they will give it their all …

But I also believe that even if it NEVER brought you money, fame, fortune, that the ONLY way you can truly make it in terms of waking up every day and LOVING THE LIFE YOU LIVE?

Is living the life you’re MEANT TO FUCKING LIVE.

And what’s more?

I know you believe the same. It’s all very well to say that we want it all and want it now.

But if we’re chasing everything but the ONE THING WE REALLY WANT?

Then what the heck is the point?

And do you REALLY think you’re ever going to get ‘there’ when you’re not actually having a crack, a whack, able to say you’re giving it your EVERYTHING, day in and day out for as long as it TAKES?

No.

You’re not.

And you won’t.

So you can take your current ‘successes’, and although they may well be pretty and shiny and SO nice to look at and preen over, THEY MEAN NOTHING.

Not when you’re not doing THAT.

Not when you haven’t even really tried!

So enough fucking around sister.

If you don’t do it now, you’ll never change and THEN YOU’LL DIE.

And I don’t know about you, but I’d say that getting to THERE? Is not what you meant by getting there.

Do what matters to you, NOT because of the outcome you THINK it should generate for you, or because you believe (and I do too!) that it’s where your wealth and fame is MEANT to be found, but do it –

Fully –

And finally –

And SIMPLY –

Because.

It.

Matters.

And that alone is all the outcome you really need.

And if it’s not?

IT NEVER MATTERED IN THE FIRST PLACE baby, so let it go.

Either way –

Remember –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat

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10 Ways to Discipline Yourself to Do the Motherfucking Work

Quote - What they call obsession we call discipline

1. You’ll Never Change and Then You’ll Die

I thought about easing into this post nice and gentle like; a bit of an inspiring story or a curious question to get you ‘hooked’ so you have to keep reading. My go-to style, after all, seems to be that my posts get rantier and angrier the longer they go on :)

But honestly, what’s the point of reading any further if you can’t just face up to reality:

And reality, like it or NOT and I hope to God you do NOT, is that if you don’t do the motherfucking work NOW – no matter what! – then YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE AND THEN YOU’LL DIE.

That’s just how it IS sister, and you can come up with all the reasons in the world why you haven’t yet and you can’t till tomorrow but NO NO NO.

You haven’t. You didn’t. You’re NOT. These are the FACTS Your Honour!

So if that’s who you are, then stop reading, stop reading now, because you?

You’ll never change and then you’ll die.

— disagree PROFUSELY and actually going to do something about it NOW, by which I mean NOW, not later today or tomorrow? Keep reading.

2. Man the Fuck Up Woman!

It’s an EXPRESSION, okay? I personally believe women are WAY more willing to do what it takes to live completely on their terms then men, but either way, you get my point. Well, I’ll tell you anyway:

This … this soft, gentle, step by step approach you’re taking? We’re you tread carefully, dip a toe in, test the waters, see how you fare, and then have a rest because it’s all too much?

For fuck’s sakes. Don’t you realise how much you’re CAPABLE of?! Don’t you realise the 20-minute workout done ALL OUT is better than the 60-min ‘for the sake of it dance around?’

Don’t you realise going hell for leather to create! create! create! and let your truth out is of higher value than an entire God damn WEEK’S worth of fucking around trying to learn internet marketing?!

Don’t you realise that if you just showed up FULLY, for even an hour each day, and you did it day in and day out then in a few MONTHS, never mind a year, you’d be further ahead than most people who’ve been ‘trying to figure it out’ the past 2 years?!

Man the fuck up woman. And when you sit down to work? Do the motherfucking work.

3. Oh So it Hurts? Good! POWER ON BITCH.

The point of pain is to guide you FORWARD not tell you to back off. Okay, so I’m not talking pain like ‘I think I just broke my leg’ and then you keep climbing the mountain. What I’m actually talking about is strong discomfort. Where you’re burning and things are tearing, and the stretching, the God damn stretching is KILLING you (except it’s not; it’s helping you!) and you don’t know if you can make it and OMFG it HUUUUURTTTTTSSS and I want to stop, and I can’t, I just can’t, and then –

ohhhhh –

You stopped.

And now you have to start all over again.

Every freaking time.

What a freaking WUSS! And really – do you really think this is helping you; that it’s what you need? Push THROUGH the discomfort; the stretch is what will GROW you and you’ll reach heights you never thought possible and YOU WILL RULE THE WORLD.

And then you go to the next level of OMFG :)

Speaking of which: stop looking for the pit stop!

4. No, You Don’t Need to Rest Yet!

I remember when I first started practicing Bikram yoga and I’d spend half the class with an eye desperately on the teacher waiting for the moment when – please! – they might open the door a crack; just a crack, so I could have that moment of respite.

This morning it hit me, as the class drew to an end, not only do I never look for that anymore but it would actually ANNOY me if the teacher were to let cold air in and distract me from the intensity at which I’m operating! Not only do I not NEED the rest I never actually needed yet used as a crutch, but I don’t fucking WANT it.

I know the REWARD of doing the work, all the way to the end.

And I know how fucking awesome it is to GET to the end of what you said you’d do and EARN YOUR REST.

So … earn your rest baby. It feels SO GOOD THAT WAY!

5. Never Say Die

Oh, so you’re tired, you don’t feel good, you had a shitty night’s sleep and you can’t be bothered?

And WAAHHHHHH, you did the work for 6 weeks STRAIGHT and you’re not a millionaire yet, so this shit ain’t working anyway!

It’s really simple lovely:

You want the outcome? You need to do the work. EVERY DAY BABY. Not just when you’re so-called ‘able’.

Speaking of which:

6. You’re operating at, like, 1%.

All this bullshit about not pushing ourselves too hard. What a fucking crock! We don’t know the freaking MEANING of pushing ourselves hard! As a population – even in the entrepreneurial world – we’ve lost sight of the fact that through the PUSH comes the JOY and the REWARD.

Stop looking around for proof or reassurance that you’re doing enough. Are you where you want to be, are you happy with how you’re living your life, do you go to bed at night SPENT with the exhausted HIGH that comes from giving life your ALL, not because of the freaking hours you put in but because of the EFFORT and emotion you gave?

No?

THEN NO. You’re not doing enough.

7. Go Faster

When you think you’re starting to get into a rhythm, when you’re proud of yourself because finally you’re getting your message out there every day, finally you’re showing up every day, finally you’re being CONSISTENT?

You’re just getting warmed up! Now is the time to give yourself a swift pat on the back and then EXIT THE WARM UP AREA.

Time to sprint baby!

8. Go Harder

When you’re sweating, it’s hurting, you’re dying on the inside and crying on the outside the temptation is to take your foot off the pedal, take a breath, look around, maybe get validation that it’s okay, you did it, it’s okay, you’re doing more than anyone else, it’s okay, you’re further along than what you were last week!

YES BUT ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE?

So push.

PUSH BABY PUSH. Race like a motherfucking woman possessed towards the life of your dreams, you CANNOT AFFORD TO WASTE A SECOND!

9. And by the way? It’s Only About You.

Never.

Ever.

EVER.

Pay attention to what anyone else is doing, how hard they’re pushing, how fast they’re going, whether they’re creating more or getting out there more, or what the fuck EVER.

Firstly it’s almost guaranteed that everybody else you look at, if you’re living at 1%, is operating at maybe 0.01%.

So – not a good point of reference.

But secondly: it’s all about you baby. YOUR LIFE. Your way. There’s no competition for living YOUR LIFE.

10. Rage Against the Machine

What it comes down to is this.

The world would tell us to slow down –

That we’re doing enough –

That it’s okay; there’s still time! –

That it’s ‘wrong’ to push, that being a hardass is wrong, that we should all basically just join hands and sing Kumbaya.

Well guess what?

The world is fat, slow, lazy and broke.

Don’t want to be of the world in THAT way?

Then best you step up to the plate.

Best you jump OFF the motherfucking plate.

And best you run like a bat out of hell to create the life YOU so badly say you want?

Because otherwise?

It’s all just a fantasy. And as you get older, fatter, slower, lazier and more freaking STUCK it is NOT GOING TO GET EASIER.

NOW is your time.

Now is the ONLY time.

YOU STILL HAVE TIME.

And you can change things.

But if you want it? You’re going to have to take it, all the way, and it’s going to have to be NOW bitch.

Don’t forget:

LIFE IS NOW. Press Play.

Kat

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Time to step up bitch!

How to NOW Get to Do More of What You Love!

Quote - Secret to doing what you loveOkay, so today I have something to share with you that is probably going to be the very best thing you’ve heard all year. ESPECIALLY if you’ve been long working your butt off to get ‘there’, with there of course being that magical point where Everything is Awesome and Unicorns Give You Goodnight Kisses.

I’m going to tell you –

Step by step –

And VERY explicitly –

EXACTLY what you need to know (and do!) so that you can right away, now, yes as of TODAY, get to FINALLY do more of what you love! In your business, SURE but also? In your whole life!

And the best part? It is going to be so much easier than you would have maybe thought! You thought you still had work to do, stuff to move past or through, blocks to clear, points to prove? NUP! We can actually get your ENTIRE BIZ AND LIFE REVOLVING AROUND AWESOME NOW!

Of course if we’re going to be able to actually do that then first you need to be able to tell me (well, you) very simply and very much NOW:

What is it you actually want to do lovely?

Don’t worry, you don’t have to be able to *fully* define it! Just as a little side note here, and I hope this reassures rather than scares you:

You won’t EVER *fully* know what you reall want to do! The process of evolution never stops, and that’s fine! It’s a GOOD thing, in fact, as seriously, if you were DONE then what would be the POINT?

But anyway.

I digress.

Back to you – what DO you want to do?

What would you just love?

What would be fan-fucking-tastic to wake up and look forward to each day?

For me? It’s always been about the writing. Speaking is great as well. If I can write and write and write and write (about whatever the hell I feel like or comes to me at the time!) and then speak a little, just rant on or share on or hit you with some truth and inspiration, I’m a happy camper.

That’s really it … everything else I think of doing or even DO do is just kinda … cream and cherry on top. Of course I have other stuff I love to do, on a more personal level, but to be honest the writing and speaking are my ‘big’ things even personally; not just for business?

What are yours?

Okay. So you know what you want to do more of, or you have an idea at least. Ready to learn how you can NOW get to do that good stuff?

Grab a pen and paper, sister, and maybe a dictaphone as well. You’re going to want to write this down.

Okay, are you sure you want to know? ‘Cause if I tell you … you’re kinda going to have to do it! Once you know the SECRET it’s not very fair to yourself to then not ACT on it! So, we good? You commit to actually running with this?

Cool, okay, let’s do it. Lean in … I’m going to whisper it … come closer lovely; I won’t bite …!

Here goes:

JUST FUCKING START DOING IT.

Okay, PHEW.

That felt good to get off my chest!

Was it good for you too?

Of course you know that’s just the beginning, right?

Let’s say your ‘thing’ is writing, but right now you ARE already writing but you’re not really letting it flow or fly. So maybe ‘what you would love’ CAN already be more fully defined.

Like:

I want to be able to write more from the heart.
I want to write without editing or filtering myself.
I want to write first thing in the morning, before ‘having’ to do anything else!
I want to write to a particular type of person only!
I want to write whatever the hell comes to mind and to heck with what anybody thinks!
I want to use my writing to sell stuff!

And so on and so forth.

Little challenge for you:

If you would ACTUALLY love to do something, anything, whether in business or in life, it’s PROBABLY worth taking a little time to explore the ins and outs of exactly what you’d love to do and NOT keeping it as vague as just ‘write’, or ‘speak’, or ‘talk about fitness’, or whatever. On the other hand, if you’re currently not even BROADLY doing what you want to do, then start broad!

Love to one day write?

FUCKING WRITE BITCH! Now! Something! Anything!

But if you’re already ‘sorta’ doing what you’d one day love to do but just not really NAILING it, then get freaking specific about what you’d ACTUALLY love to do.

How to do this:

Pen and paper, or new text file. And you have to come up with 20 related expressions of that thing you’d love to do. I already did 6 examples above for you, on the writing goal! So just go with whatever comes to mind. Don’t judge or question yourself! Doesn’t matter if it makes SENSE, okay! This is about listening in, and playing a game of choose your own adventure; heck let’s call it what it is which is choose your own LIFE except it’s not actually a game you DO actually get to do that and you ARE in fact already DOING it!

So are you doing it on purpose?

Are you CONSCIOUSLY choosing, or are you getting swept along?

One thing is for sure sister:

You don’t have to know precisely every in and out of what you would MOST love to do in order to get started, but if you don’t get started, and now?

You’ll probably never really know.

One of the greatest things about business these days is you can do whatever you want, create yourself into anything, build brand you and have it completely on your terms!

One of the scariest things though? Is you’re already doing whatever you want, you’ve chosen what you’ve created, and the brand you have now is exactly what you carved out for yourself.

So if you want something different …

And you’re sick of waiting till you have time, space, energy or know-how to do what you REALLY want to do, then just make it freaking simple, and JUST FUCKING DO IT.

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat

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